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On SCOTUS and Single Parents

I have mentioned several times over the past year how I’ve become aware of how we bring our own assumptions to the table.  We see things as colored from our lives and not always how they really are.  I’ve shared that this happened to me, someone close to me made an assumption that was very real and valid in their reality; however, it wasn’t what was really happening, and it was a big eye opener for me.  I’ve worked very hard to leave my assumptions behind and see things as they are today, to see people as they are today.  Not as they were when I met them, or last year, or last week, or even yesterday.  Part of my journey to live in the Now has really focused on this.

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Apparently some days are better/easier than others.  And that’s okay, it helps me learn and grow, but man, those off days…

I stole the title of this blog post from Deborah at The Monster in my Closet for several reasons.  First off, it’s a kick butt title, secondly, it totally applies and third, you MUST go read her blog post by the same title.  

I have massive respect for The Monster in my Closet, she has a wonderful life story, and while we are on different paths, it has been fun to read about her journey.  One of my favorite parts is that she welcomes discussion.  I watch her communicate with others and I really enjoy seeing the different view points and perspectives that show up on her blog!

She posted something a few days ago, on a different media outlet, that immediately sent me over the edge.

And not in a good way.

When the Supreme Court handed down their decision on gay marriage, The Monster in my Closet read it.  Not skimmed it, not read what others posted, but read the actual words set forth by SCOTUS (Mad props for that!) and in that ruling, she found a beautiful paragraph that addressed the children of gay couples, and how SCOTUS took them into consideration.

And, it was beautiful, I found it awesome that the children were addressed; however, there was some verbiage included that pretty much had me reverting to an older version of myself, getting defensive and well, with hands shaking and stomach quivering, I shot off a response.   I was upfront and told her that I recognized I was taking this single paragraph out of context – and I was, but it sure didn’t stop me!

Excluding same-sex couple from marriage thus conflicts with a central premise of the right to marry.  Without the recognition, stability and predictability marriage offers, their children suffer the stigma of knowing their families are somehow lesser.  They also suffer the significant material costs of being raised by unmarried parents, relegated through no fault of their own to a more difficult and uncertain family life.

Stigma? Somehow lesser? Material costs of being raised by unmarried parents???

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I was okay until they threw in “unmarried parents” and then all of the sudden, the ruling became personal.  I have worked so very hard to make sure my son doesn’t feel a “stigma” because he comes from a “lesser” family because he is being raised by an “unmarried” parent.

That was a shot to my heart.  How could I NOT read that as an affront to all I have worked for for 16 years?

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There is no stigma there, unconventional, yes.  But a lesser family?!? Them are fightin’ words!! 

Again, in one part of my brain, I recognized I was taking it out of context, but apparently we have found the issue that is still, well, an issue for me! Deborah and I exchanged several emails as we discussed this – not mean or nasty, but genuine emails with a real discussion.  And here is the best part.

While I knew in part of my brain that it was okay, I just couldn’t get the rest of me there.  I was fixated on those words.

Stigma

Lesser

Then Deborah sent me a link to an article posted on the American Academy of Pediatrics site.  And I cried.

AAP has supported families in all their diversity, because the family has always been the basic social unit in which children develop the supporting and nurturing relationships with adults that they need to thrive. Children may be born to, adopted by, or cared for temporarily by married couples, nonmarried couples, single parents, grandparents, or legal guardians, and any of these may be heterosexual, gay or lesbian, or of another orientation. Children need secure and enduring relationships with committed and nurturing adults to enhance their life experiences for optimal social-emotional and cognitive development. Scientific evidence affirms that children have similar developmental and emotional needs and receive similar parenting whether they are raised by parents of the same or different genders.

The rest of me finally caught up.  It’s okay.  I’m okay.  My family is whole.

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Pamper Yourself Giveaway

It has been a busy week and it is time to share the joy, so I am giving away gift cards to Starbucks and Panera! 

I have been away at a work conference, it is an annual event and it is simultaneously the most exhilarating and exhausting event I attend each year! I get to learn a lot, get a ton of training and plenty of time to play catch-up with my colleagues. 

I love hotel rooms. They really are my guilty pleasure.  I just feel different getting to stay in a hotel and I just love them! I’m very fortunate that my hotel room is usually paid for by a company that I work with, and this year it was a new company and I posted on Facebook that I was having a Cinderella moment!  

Cinderella moment and a giveaway at Did That Just Happen Blog   I had a living room. 

  Not kidding when I say that this bathroom is about the size of my first apartment. 
  And the bedroom, so luxurious! And do you see that chair? 
  Yes, that chair! I’m so in love with that chair! 
But it was late (late, late, late) nights and (way too) early mornings and when I wanted to sneak in pool time (or a nap) I actually had to work! 

It was rough, I tell ya! 

But I couldn’t even complain, all I could do was think about how fortunate I was to be able to attend and work in such pretty surroundings. 

I felt very pampered and posh! 

Now I want to share the love with you guys and give away a gift card to Starbucks and Panera Bread. It’s time for you to get a nice cup of coffee and a delicious treat and then curl up with a good book! Or a cool frappe and warm bowl of soup to enjoy before a bedtime bath! 

The possibilities are endless! 

Tell me what your favorite guilty pleasure is and you’ll be entered to win. Share for a double entry! Let me know your deepest secrets :) and don’t forget to tell me if you shared! Good Luck!

  
***Wordpress, Starbucks and Panera Bread are not affiliated with this giveaway. It’s sponsored by my love for you! Contest ends Sunday June 28, 2015 and is open to residents in the U.S. and Canada. For my international readers, I love you but you don’t have Panera or Starbucks in some cases, so we will come up with the equivalent in a gift card or PayPal.  

Is it Hunting Season?

Because I just bagged a duck!

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Or have a bag full of ducks.

Take your pick!

My Life in Day 5

It’s finally Day 5 of my photo challenge.

I have been challenged by Tracie at Life in the Wylde West to the Five Photos, Five Stories Challenge.  “Post a photo each day for five consecutive days and attach a story to the photo.  It can be fiction or non-fiction, a poem or a short paragraph, and each day nominate another blogger for the challenge.”

To see what I’ve posted previously, you can visit Day 1Day 2Day 3 and Day 4 by clicking on the links!

I did not make it consecutive and I failed to nominate anyone – but I’m still calling this complete! :)

The problem is, I have no clue what to post for my 5th day.  I have sat down several times and just drawn a blank, but the challenge has been looming over my head – so guess what? I’m not making a decision – I’m throwing in every photo I can!

My view on the way home; I live about 2 blocks from these guys.

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We did a painting class and got the cutest little instructor!

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I went to a concert, For King and Country, and they were awesome!

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So close I could smell the sweat!

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Night before cheer camp we had a dinner for the team

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Mr. T and one of his teammates.  Aren’t they just awesome?

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While Mr. T was at cheer camp, I bought new shoes :)

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And I happily proclaimed on Instagram that my job beats your job when the Chef made me a cinnamon chocolate brulee with orange whip.

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Then, I saw this car the other day, and posted a challenge on Facebook “Name that Movie” and my cousin Wayne was all over it!  But, he and I are fierce competitors at our yearly trivia challenge at the Family Reunion, so I wasn’t surprised at all that he guessed first and guessed right!

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Oh, after all the rain we’ve received, and with even more to come, this was a welcome sight!

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And it all ended with this picture from Sunday.  I have my bible and iPad, coffee and candy, answering emails and working on Cheer and Snag.  If you wanted my life in one picture, this would probably be it!

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embracing my bitchy resting face

Kate @ Did That Just Happen?:

I know I owe you Day 5 of my photo challenge, but I am so struggling to narrow it down… and that literally has consumed my thoughts when I sat down to blog – so I am giving you NancyTex and her lesson on BRF, from which I, too, suffer.
You can send your compassion in the form of Starbucks gift cards, or just go leave her a comment.

Originally posted on my year of sweat:

It was brought to my attention recently that I sometimes intimidate people. Just by the look on my face.

Oh, I’ve actually heard this many times over the years, but I always chalked it up to the fact that I was over stressed, go-go-go, and [lets not kid anyone], often angry.

But lately…lately I’ve been Zen Mama, at one with nature, at peace with my life.

I’ve been climbing mountains [literally], digging trenches in the deepest part of my being [metaphorically], and spending time doing things I love. All of which have resulted in me being ridiculously happy.

So, imagine my surprise when I heard that I still give off an angry vibe just via my facial expression, even though I’m not feeling that way.

My son recently started dating a close friend of his. I had suspected all along that they were more than friends, but he insisted that the…

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My Son Loves Me

I have been challenged by Tracie at Life in the Wylde West to the Five Photos, Five Stories Challenge.  “Post a photo each day for five consecutive days and attach a story to the photo.  It can be fiction or non-fiction, a poem or a short paragraph, and each day nominate another blogger for the challenge.”

To see what I’ve posted previously, you can visit Day 1Day 2 and Day 3 by clicking on the links!

Day 4:

My son loves me so very much.

I mean look at this picture of us, it’s clear to see how much he loves me!

Me and Mr. T

He loves me so much that we even dress alike!

And we hold hands!

It’s enough love to make a momma cry!

And it’s a lie!

It’s all lies!!!

I’m not kidding, that photo is one big work of non-fiction!

Yes, we were dressed alike, but it was the day of a Cheer fundraiser, and dressing alike is pretty mandatory, all of the parents were in their cheer shirts.  It wasn’t just me.

And yes, we are smiling and holding hands – but only because he didn’t want to smile.  He was being an I’m-not-going-to-smile-in-this-picture teenager, and well, my hair looked too good for him to not smile!

So, I started tickling him.

He in turn, grabbed my hand to hold it still and his girlfriend timed it perfectly when she hit the shutter button!

Just remember this next time you see a picture on Facebook, what looks like a loving family could turn out to be a pack of lies! :)

Fears are Validated

I have been challenged by Tracie at Life in the Wylde West to the Five Photos, Five Stories Challenge.  “Post a photo each day for five consecutive days and attach a story to the photo.  It can be fiction or non-fiction, a poem or a short paragraph, and each day nominate another blogger for the challenge.”

I figure it’s Day 3, I should change up the opener some… but really, I have no idea what to say – but you can go visit Day 1 and Day 2 of the challenges to see how awesome of an opener I originally wrote.

Day 3:

Here is the text message where my dad discovered that my sister loves me more than she does him.

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And yes, half of our text messages are like this.

What starts as an innocent “don’t let me scare you I’m coming in the house soon” devolves into “my sister loves me more than you” message.  I would like to say that this was the only time our text messages have devolved, but alas, I’d be lying!

And yes, a screen shot totally counts as a photograph.  It’s in my camera roll, so it counts!

Cheer Shoes: A Haiku

I have been challenged by Tracie at Life in the Wylde West to the Five Photos, Five Stories Challenge.  “Post a photo each day for five consecutive days and attach a story to the photo.  It can be fiction or non-fiction, a poem or a short paragraph, and each day nominate another blogger for the challenge.”

Now, getting me to do anything for five days in a row is a challenge – but because Tracie said the loveliest things about me in her post, well, I can’t refuse!

Plus, as a friend of mine recently stated “Kate is always doing challenges”

It’s true, I am!

But what is life without a few challenges!

Day 2:

I never thought life

Would consist of picking up

cheer shoes from the couch.

cheer shoes

It’s not the life I

Would have ever imagined

But it fills my heart.

Like Sands of the Hourglass…

These are the Binders of My Life

I have been challenged by Tracie at Life in the Wylde West to the Five Photos, Five Stories Challenge.  “Post a photo each day for five consecutive days and attach a story to the photo.  It can be fiction or non-fiction, a poem or a short paragraph, and each day nominate another blogger for the challenge.”

Now, getting me to do anything for five days in a row is a challenge – but because Tracie said the loveliest things about me in her post, well, I can’t refuse!

Plus, as a friend of mine recently stated “Kate is always doing challenges”

It’s true, I am!

But what is life without a few challenges!

Day 1:

The Binders of my Life | Did That Just Happen Blog

Do you see those four binders?  Those represent my life right now.

The fact that those binders are sandwiched in between my business life, on the right, and my personal life, on the left, is probably the most accurate representation of “balance” that you’ll ever find!

The blue binder is my Drama folder for church.  In here lives all of the scripts we are working on, plus meeting notes and upcoming events.

Next to it is a purple folder. Right now that purple folder is so small – but I know that as the months pass it will start to grow, and soon it will overflow.  That purple binder represents Senior Year.  That binder tells me that Mr. T passed his State mandated tests, that he only needs 4 credits to graduate and is on the recommended graduation plan.  It tells me when to start watching for cap and gown purchases and how much ads in the Yearbooks are estimated to be.  That purple binder is the one that causes a lump to form in my throat!

Next to that is my Cheerleading binder.  Not only did I join the Booster Club to support our team, but I am a member of the Executive Committee – for the 2nd year! I know, it freaks me out, too!  This binder contains all I need to know to fulfill my role on the committee, and it brings me such joy.  I get to be involved, but not intrusive, and it works for me and Mr. T!

But, if that wasn’t enough, the SNAG!16 binder has joined the ranks.  SNAG is Senior Night After Graduation and is our version of Project Graduation, which was started to give graduates a safe place to gather together after graduation. Sadly, graduation night is the night that has the highest incidents of our kids not making it back home and there has been a movement for many years, all over the United States, to give the graduates a place to play and hang out and have a big hooray before closing this chapter in their lives.  Since 2015 is our schools first graduating class, we are all kinda winging it – but guess what I did – I volunteered to be an Executive on this Committee, too.  We will plan and fund raise and do all we can to give our kids the best night after graduation, to give them memories they will carry with them for a lifetime.

I’m happy to report that I’m not the only crazy parent.

Which is good, because the other day I completely lost it on Facebook!

What is the secret handshake I need to learn in order to start getting info on Senior year? Is it too soon to be asking about if yearbook photos have to be a specific company? Or yearbook ads? Or when to take senior pictures? Or announcements? Holy cow, please tell me we get an order form for that! Am I the only one that has started to freak yet? Mrs. S, you’re going thru it now… can you just give me the answer sheet and I’ll copy it all onto my test!

Who let me adult

My Jawbone is Sleep Training Me

I use the Jawbone UP fitness tracker.

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I love my Jawbone. It’s the bottom bracelet I’m wearing.

But I’ve noticed that my Jawbone is trying to sleep train me.

You’ll know this term if you have little kids, or have friends with little kids.  Or even have friends of friends who have little kids.  They all talk about sleep training their child.

Sleep training is the process of helping a baby learn to get to sleep and stay asleep through the night

I’m not a baby.  I know how to go to sleep. The problem is that I don’t have time to go to sleep!

Between my responsibilities, my fun and now Mr. T and his work and fun, my sleep pattern has been severely disrupted.

And now, I keep getting messages like the following:

Jawbone sleep training 2

Okay, consistency helps – but look – I slept 7 hr and 22 min!!  I deserve a congratulations for that!

jawbone sleep training 4

Okay, thanks for letting me know I’ll be less than productive.  Maybe my boss should get a copy of my sleep report? :)

Jawbone sleep training 1

So, now you want to challenge me to a new bed time?

Challenge accepted!! 

Jawbone sleep training 3

Challenge failed.

But, I wish my Jawbone good luck in sleep training me!  It probably should have talked to my parents first, they’d probably have been able to talk that little computer out of even trying!

:)

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