Reverse Father’s Day

Father’s Day is coming up.

I know I had to tell you that because you’ve probably missed the hundreds of ads letting you know that your dad needs new BBQ tools, or that this tie is perfect for your little one to give – and nothing beats the WORLDS BEST DAD coffee mug.

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The tie Mr. T gave me for Father’s Day one year.

This time of year also gets me thinking about Father’s Day in reverse.  I look at my son, and the man I am raising, and wonder what kind of father he will be.  Being a single mother, have I given him the skills necessary to transition into fatherhood?  While this question doesn’t haunt me, I will admit that I’ve given it some thought.

And, I’ve made plenty of phone calls to my male best friends.

“Is it supposed to do THAT?”

“How does that thing work?”

“Okay, how do I know what cup size to buy him?!? And are there instructions?”

“How do you shave?”

“Is this normal??”

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As Mr. T has grown, I’ve learned that Yes, it is supposed to do that, Yes, it is normal and that the athletic cup isn’t as scary as I thought!

Now that Mr. T has hit the teenage years, he’s no longer content with a can of shaving cream and a fake razor.  For the past year he’s been closely monitoring his peach fuzz.

“Mom, feel this. I think it’s getting rougher.”

Or “Mom, look, you can see that some of the hairs are darker.”

Or the ever popular “Uh Mom, you need to shave, your mustache is darker than mine!”

Sadly, he was right on that one.

And this year, he finally got to break out the razor and shaving cream.  Now I get updates on how the shave goes.

“Mom, I think I’m always going to shave in the shower, it makes it easier.”

“Mom, can you bring my shaving cream and razor to the school, I think I need to shave before my performance.”  (No joke, this was yesterday’s phone call!  I explained that the pancake makeup would cover any stubble, not make it more pronounced.) (And really, his stubble after 3 days of not shaving is still not as bad as my stubble after 1 day of not shaving!!)

Sorry, that last bit was probably TMI.

Moving on…

A few months ago, he discovered the Dollar Shave Club, because apparently I wasn’t doing a good enough job in keeping him supplied with razors! It worked out though, because this kid is in heaven.

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He gets online, places his order and sets up the delivery schedule.  I always know when a package is due because he starts to volunteer to go check the mail!

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This was a win/win situation.  I don’t have to remember to pick up razors, and my son gets an easy way to learn how to manage his money and subscriptions.  But, wait – there’s more!

This is the inspiration for the post!  This is what got me thinking about Father’s Day in reverse.

It’s the end of the school year, and we were cleaning out Mr. T’s back pack.

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His very manly backpack, custom made for him by a soldier on tour overseas.  It’s his favorite bag and he’s carried this guy for years.  And guess what I found in the side pocket?

One wipe charlesOne Wipe Charlies! I looked at him and he looked at me.  I looked at him some more and he goes “What? The toilet paper at school is so rough – these are much better!”

All of the sudden that little seed of doubt I’d been carrying around vanished.  Not only can my kid shave, he’s discovered how to make his life easier.

Yep, he’ll be just fine as he grows up, and this Father’s Day I’ll give myself a pat on the back!  And then I’ll upload our photos from camping and discover a dozen duck lip selfies on my phone!

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PS – this post contains affiliated links, because Mr. T told me after I post this that he can get a credit if anyone orders based on him.  Naturally, I had to change my link for him! And, I think I should disclose that to you!

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Holiday Weekend Time!

I’m so ready for the day to be over!  We are going camping this weekend and we are all very much ready for the time away!

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Here is how we camp – mini fridge and automatic coffee maker (not seen).

I surprised Mr. T with his very own tent about a month ago. It’s not big, but it’s easy to set up and he gets to take it with him when he moves out.  He’s excited, in his own laid back way.

We also borrowed a pop up canopy from mom and dad for our time down by the lake’s edge.

I also have a new cooler, slightly bigger than the last one – which broke on me!

Oh, and I have my new car to pack this all into! My new and bigger car.

My new and bigger car didn’t feel any bigger when Mr. T and I were loading up last night! We finally decided that it was the extra tent, canopy and ice chest!  They were taking up too much room!

Mr. T playing horseshoes

Mr. T playing horseshoes

I ended up having to unpack my dresser and pack the contents in a different container.

Yes, I said dresser.

Then we came inside after it was all said and done and discovered the two food tubs.

Out we went, again.

Eventually we did get it all in the car.  And then part of it out again so I can go fill up the coolers with ice!

Then I had to give major props to Karen, who is the one that asked if I had done a “dry fit” of the camping gear in the new car! Our Facebook conversation cracked me up.  I decided that since my conversation about camping involves the words “astro turf entry” “pee bucket” and “dresser”, well, that probably tells you all you need to know about how I camp!

Having said that – I can’t sit at my computer any longer!  Have a wonderful weekend – and if you all would refrain from blogging this weekend so I don’t miss any of your wonderful blogs, that would be awesome! 🙂

Camping tents

Okay, the best part of this last picture is – I don’t think any of us are using those same tents!  In fact, I can promise you we aren’t!  The first one is my old one – and I have a bigger and easier to set up one now.  The middle one is Pam’s, and she has an easy up – that white one she is bringing for her granddaughter to use.  And the last one – I think that is my Amy’s, and she has a new easy up tent, too!  I’ll have to get a new tent picture this weekend!

On a more serious note – a big thanks to the men and woman of our Armed Forces and their families.  May you all take a moment this weekend to remember those that gave their all for you.  (To my neighbors up North, I know this doesn’t apply directly to you guys, but hey, we’ll take all the good energy we can get for our troops!)

Memorial Day

I Might Not Date You If…

We are week 3 into my online dating adventure.

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I have learned that I might need to update my profile to include more detailed information.

  1. If there is gym equipment in the back ground of your selfie… I might not date you
  2. If your occupation is listed as “hotshot”… I might not date you
  3. If you have more typos in your bio than words spelled correctly… I might not date you
  4. Let’s not even address grammar!
  5. If you tell me that you spend most of your time at 24 Hour Fitness… I might not date you
  6. If your user name is “Broken”… I might not date you

That was all just in today’s matches.

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Every Tuesday

At our house I do laundry on Tuesday.

Every single Tuesday.

I have my routine and I’m really good at following it. I start with Mr. T’s colors, then his darks, then mine and then finishing with towels. I’ve learned to do the hard stuff first and get it out of the way and save the sheets and towels for the last – cause they are the easiest!

Sadly, this has greeted me the past several Tuesday’s:

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Apparently I’ve gotten distracted and failed to fold the towels. Today I went to transfer the load from the washer to the dryer and yet again, dryer full of towels!

Today I vow to actually get the towels folded! I hope everyone else is having a great Tuesday and here is wishing you an empty dryer!

A Year Later

It has been over a year since I last talked to my brother and today marks the one year anniversary of his passing.  At times it is still surreal.  Just the other day Mr. T asked if I had seen the trailer for the new Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle movie, and I said no, and he goes “It’s totally different.  I hate that Uncle Lee won’t be able to go see the movie with us.”  Uncle Lee did love TMNT growing up, and we’ve all seen the earlier movies a hundred times because he loved them – and yes, I hate that he won’t be here to go see the movie with us, too.

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New look of TMNT

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TMNT Old School wondering “what have they done to us?”

 

Many of you were with me as I went through this journey, and you met Lee and learned about CRRT and how a mechanical heart works! While it really feels like it took a long time, it was 9 months from start to finish and one month from the time he started having real issues until his passing.

Several months ago I went through my Facebook feed and made a copy of all of my updates on Lee, I wanted to make sure I always had them, and today I am sharing them with you.

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April 6, 2013

Keep Lee in your thoughts and prayers. The meds he was put on to help his diabetes have made him sick, he’s switching to a new med, but still has to suffer thru the weekend while the old ones work out if his system. Please and thanks!

 

April 8, 2013

Lee is being admitted to the ICU for observation and monitoring. Please keep him in your thoughts and prayers. His blood pressure is very low and there are some other issues. Thanks!

 

April 9, 2013

I’m sitting on one side of Lee’s bed and mom is on the other. I’m checking emails and watching TV and for the last couple of minutes I just keep hearing mom giggle. Silence and then a giggle. Silence and then giggle, giggle. Not sure what she’s doing, but apparently that side of the bed is funnier!

 

April 9, 2013

(Mom’s post) I am asking everyone to put our son Lee in their prayers tonight. He is in ICU and is scheduled for surgery tomorrow. There is real concern about how his heart is going to handle the surgery. Please keep him in your prayers. He is being a trouper but his heart just isn’t helping him

 

April 10, 2013

Lee is out of surgery. He did good! He gets to go straight back to his room in the ICU and do his recovery there. Thanks to everyone for the prayers and the reaching out. Please continue to pray for his recovery.

 

April 11, 2013

Lee had a rough morning and his kidneys didn’t kick start like we wanted. So he had a port installed this afternoon so that dialysis could be administered. This will be a continuous bedside treatment to slowly clean his blood and remove the toxins. This should make it easier for his body to then work on its own. Thanks for the prayers and support. Let me know if you have any questions! And he had really appreciated the well wishes that have come his way!

Last picture of Lee and I together.

April 12, 2013

Lee is much more lucid today, which helps me out, I can tell what he’s saying, lol. The dialysis is working and his kidneys look good. His liver doesn’t look so good, tho, so we are calling in a new doctor for help. As always, thanks for the prayers and support!

 

April 12, 2013

We were told that Lee’s recovery would be up and down, and despite the setbacks, we do seem to be moving forward. Lee met some new doctors today. We’ve seen the GI doc, who is running some tests and had an ultrasound done on the liver, and we’ve seen the infectious disease doc who will just watch for a few days. Hopefully we can find out if something is wrong with his liver (it’s still congested) or if the issue is heart related. He slept a good portion of the day today, so I think his body is busy healing itself!

 

April 13, 2013

Small setback today, Lee has a fever, which is next to impossible when on dialysis, so they are working to find and kill the infection. They have also played, in essence, musical IV’s and removed the art and central lines and put in a picc line. He was surprised to learn today was Saturday, apparently he lost a few days during all of this!

 

April 14, 2013

Lee’s numbers look good today and his fever broke. Those are both big checks in the win column. We are very blessed that he has such a great group of doctors and nurses looking after him.

 

April 15, 2013

To my untrained eye, Lee seems better. His color has improved and his diet has been upgraded to full liquid so he gets things like cream soups and malt-o-meal. Of course, his numbers are still all over the place, not as stable as we want, but, he is moving forward. It is slow progress, but progress nevertheless. Please continue to send your prayers for Lee, and for his doctors and nurses and us! It’s been a full week in the ICU and there isn’t an end in sight just yet.

 

April 16, 2013

Lee had a rough day, but he was weaned off of one specific med, and this allowed us to stop dialysis. Tomorrow we should have new lab numbers to review, and the CRRT (dialysis) machine won’t be far away, but we are really hoping that his body is taking over and he won’t need more than a few hours a day, if at all. He is so ready to get better and be out of the hospital!

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April 17, 2013

Day 10 in the ICU and we are still showing progress, but it’s hard. Lee is struggling with pain and aches and today he went down for a traditional hemodialysis treatment. Please just keep him in your prayers.

 

April 18, 2013

Today Lee had a CT done for pictures of his internal organs and tomorrow he will have a Swan-Ganz right heart catheterization. (They will inset a small tube into the right side of the heart and arteries leading to the lungs to measure function and blood flow.) This will help get a full picture of what is going on inside his body and his doctors work on his treatment. Prayers please!

 

April 19, 2013

Lee is being transported to one if the UNTSW hospitals, not sure which, probably St. Paul. This will provide more specialize care. Sadly, I don’t think he’s well enough to really appreciate the helicopter ride, but the Care Flight staff will take good care of him.

 

April 22, 2013

Lee’s kidneys are doing better today, that’s a blessing and tomorrow they are going to attempt the right heart cath again. Hopefully they can do it this time. Everyone is ready to know the results of that!

 

April 23, 2013

I’m taking Mr. T to Diva Dinner tonight. Against his will. Good times ahead! On another note, on paper Lee is doing better, his kidneys and liver are responding. Sadly, he’s had a rough night and an even rougher day, he’s just out of sorts and very uncomfortable. He does have a small infection that they are fighting, but otherwise, looking good. On an even better note, more depts. have signed off on his transplant, so we might be able to get his case in front of the board for review and approval this week! The LVAD is also in serious discussion.  Prayers!!

 

April 24, 2013

Lee ended up being sedated and put on a ventilator yesterday evening and then had a contrast CT done. Found nothing on the CT that required surgery & he made it through the night! Prayers do work! He has developed a higher fever, so he is currently packed in ice and they are keeping him sedated while he is on the ventilator. Please keep sending prayers for him, his doctors and staff and family. Let me know if you have any questions! Thanks!

 

April 24, 2013

Lee’s fever broke! Yay! The ice blanket has been off for hours and he is running normal. The docs plan to do the right heart cath, no matter what, tomorrow (fingers crossed!).

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April 25, 2013

On another note, Lee’s fever came back, but has stabilized. The docs have decided not to do the right heart cath and just proceed forward with the surgery for the LVAD. Lee’s condition is hour by hour, but if he stays stable, they will do this tomorrow. Blessing!!! Also, today, his file is going before the transplant selection committee at St. Pauls. Please pray that he gets approved for his heart transplant!

 

April 25, 2013

Please pray for Lee’s surgery. Tomorrow he will have the LVAD installed on his heart. This is a very high risk operation but there is a surgeon willing to take it on and we are hopeful. He’ll have a rough couple of days afterwards, but this should help him while we wait on transplant options.

 

April 26, 2013

Please keep praying for Lee. We just got a report that the surgery is going well. He is still open on the table, but the device is installed. They are doing dialysis to cleanse his blood of the toxins and meds. Should only be a few more hours. Thanks!

 

April 26, 2013

Please keep up the prayers. The right side of his heart didn’t hold up when they put the device on the left side so they have had to go ahead and put an assistance device on the right side, too. They are still running dialysis to help clear his blood, and it should be a few more hours. Thanks guys!

 

April 26, 2013

Surgery is over. They will be watching him for bleeding and stabilizing vitals. They may go back in as early as Sunday and try to take off the right side assist device. He survived the surgery! Another victory!

 

April 27, 2013

Please be praying for Lee who is back in surgery this morning due to his assistance devices. Thanks

 

April 27, 2013

Lee just got out of surgery. Had to replace the LVAD unit. Took off the RVAD but added an Ecmo to oxygenate his lungs. They are filling up. The Ecmo will basically bypass his lungs to give them time to heal. I haven’t researched that item yet! Please keep praying!

 

April 27, 2013

Well, Lee no sooner got done with surgery earlier and they took him right back in. The oxygeninator (I made that word up) that was working his lungs wasn’t balanced with his LVAD. Considering they haven’t ever done this combination of equipment before, they are paying real close attention and pulling out all the stops. Please keep him in your prayers.

 

April 28, 2013

Lee was bleeding a lot last night, so they had to open his chest again to pack it and try to stop the bleeding. They will leave it open so they can go in and repack as needed. Please say a little prayer as you read this!

 

April 28, 2013

Sunday was a day of rest for Lee and he had a pretty peaceful day. His chest is still open and packed and probably will be while he is on the Ecmo, but that has allowed his lungs to begin to heal! Thanks to everyone for their prayers!

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April 30, 2013

This morning Lee is back in the OR and they are removing all of the packing, cleaning out his chest and doing an antibiotic “Paint” job inside before they finally sew his chest up. It’s been open for a couple of days now, so this is really good news that they can close him up! The LVAD is working well and they are keeping him on the ECMO a bit longer. Please pray for a successful closure this morning. Thanks!

 

April 30, 2013

Lee made it out of surgery this morning, but he’s been rushed back to the OR due to bleeding. Please continue to keep him in your prayers!

 

April 30, 2013

Lee had a busy day. Had surgery to close his chest, was rushed back in when he “sprung a leak”. It appears that closing the chest put more pressure on the organs and machines than expected, as once they opened him back up, everything was normal. So, now his chest is open (a bit more than before) and he is packed up again. They went ahead and installed a defibrillator on his right side, just in case, but as of now, only his left side is getting assistance. Also, prayers have been answered because he is off the Ecmo and back on the ventilator. Please keep the prayers coming! It is still a very touch and go situation.

 

May 1, 2013

In the wee hours of the morning Lee was back in the OR having the ECMO put back on, the right side if his heart just wasn’t keeping up. It was a success and he is back in his room, chest open and packed up. The doctor is thinking of waking him up later today. Please keep praying for him and that his heart will hold on.

 

May 1, 2013

The doctors have taken Lee off all of the anesthesia and we are waiting for him to wake up. He needs to wake up and be able to follow some basic commands and then the doctors can go before the transplant selection committee tomorrow with a good report. Please keep in mind his chest is still open and packed and he is back on the Ecmo, and he has just been through so very much. Today’s prayer is for him to wake up! Thanks!

 

May 2, 2013

Please keep Lee in your prayers as we are still waiting for him to wake up properly. They are calling in a neuro consult and will possibly do bedside CT tomorrow. Let me know if you have any questions and thanks!

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May 3, 2013

Today’s prayer is for Lee’s liver to function properly. They think the liver is causing some of his sedation issues. So, we’d love for his liver to start working better so we can see if he will wake up properly. Today he will have another procedure and they will remove the packing in his chest, give him an antibiotic paint job and then repack his chest. We appreciate all of the prayers.

 

May 4, 2013

Just got done seeing Lee. We still need lots of prayers for his liver! He is also back on CRRT, but that’s okay, his kidneys will bounce back. Come on liver! Work! Please and thanks!

 

May 5, 2013

Please keep praying for Lee’s liver! I talked to the nurses and they said we can post Get Well cards for Lee in his room. If you need an address please message or text me. I think he would enjoy hearing us read them to him!

 

May 6, 2013

This morning Lee has some GI bleeding issues that they are working on, and he is going to have a CT scan done soon. Please pray for the healing of his body. Let me know if you have any questions, and I’ll update you when I have more info! Just keep sending up the prayers!

 

May 7, 2013

Thank you all for your love, support and prayers. Today we released Lee from life support and he had a very peaceful transition to Heaven. My family and I are so grateful to all of you who have said prayers, thank you very much from all of us from the bottom of our hearts.

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My May Milestones

Fun fact:  I’m highly competitive.

It’s not always pretty.

Telling me to do something

But….

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And I’m there!

So, Nancy at My Years of Sweat called me out today.  She declared her May goals and I was all happy for her until I read further and saw she totally called me out!!

Well, I have to respond, cause – competitive!

First off, do you remember the bane of my existence?

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Yes, I did master the wall sit.  I do 1.5 – 2 min every single morning.  That thing is harder than it looks and I’m super proud of myself.

I’m working on the whole yoga thing.  I actually gave up cable last week.  Dad was laughing at me this weekend because apparently after it all happened I called him with a quiver in my voice, so he was happy to hear that I was okay.  I replaced it with antennas in a couple of rooms and an internet streaming device for all of the TV’s.  It’s pretty awesome, but did you know that there are fitness channels?  There is even one dedicated to yoga!

Which brings me to:

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  1. Increase my daily exercise from 30 min to 60 min.  This will be a combination each and every day.
  2. Yoga 2 – 3 times a week.
  3. Continue with my wall sit (this is thrown in so that no matter what, I know I will accomplish something!)
  4. Schedule community volunteer time (cause my mental health is just as important!)

Okay, there.  I’ve officially set my intention for the month of May! There are plenty of others who are holding themselves accountable, what about you? 🙂