So, remember My Ex, who wanted to mend our relationship?
I was open to it and worked hard to remain open, because really, all I wanted to do was slam that door shut. Lock it. Throw away the key. Add a chain. Lock it. Throw away that key. Then put up bricks.
But, instead, I left the door open.
He set up a time to call me.
And didn’t call.
A few days later we connected. Blah, blah, blah. The discussion was had about how no one has time for anything anymore. If it’s a priority, you make time for it. I made it clear, I will never hold it against him if he misses a call, as it shows me where on his priority list I am. It shows me how important this is to him… or not.
So, then he sets up a time for a second call.
And maybe a 3rd call is set up.
After a certain point I’m all:
Now, blog friends, let me fill you in on a secret.
I was really rooting for My Ex. I really, really wanted him to follow through. I know that in the past I have provided many opportunities for him, I’ve opened the door and he hasn’t been able to step through.
I really, really hoped this time would be different. As hard is was for me because I wanted to board the door shut, I was championing his cause to my friends – I knew he could do it! He seemed really sincere and like he really wanted it! I wanted it for him! I can’t tell you how badly I wanted him to be able to make this work. Not for me, but for him. I felt he really needed this and it would be good for him.
In the end, I had to give up. The second time it went 2 weeks past the time he set up to call, and he hadn’t, well, I can only hold my pom-poms so long.
He showed that mending the relationship was not a priority for him. He showed it every time he didn’t follow through. Every missed phone call and every unanswered text. No response is a BIG response in my book.
It is what it is – but I wanted to provide closure for y’all! Sometimes your phone will betray you and FaceTime your Ex and it will lead you on a grand adventure full of intrigue, mystery and suspense! But, most days you’ll just use it to look up dog videos!