Father’s Day is coming up.
I know I had to tell you that because you’ve probably missed the hundreds of ads letting you know that your dad needs new BBQ tools, or that this tie is perfect for your little one to give – and nothing beats the WORLDS BEST DAD coffee mug.
This time of year also gets me thinking about Father’s Day in reverse. I look at my son, and the man I am raising, and wonder what kind of father he will be. Being a single mother, have I given him the skills necessary to transition into fatherhood? While this question doesn’t haunt me, I will admit that I’ve given it some thought.
And, I’ve made plenty of phone calls to my male best friends.
“Is it supposed to do THAT?”
“How does that thing work?”
“Okay, how do I know what cup size to buy him?!? And are there instructions?”
“How do you shave?”
“Is this normal??”
As Mr. T has grown, I’ve learned that Yes, it is supposed to do that, Yes, it is normal and that the athletic cup isn’t as scary as I thought!
Now that Mr. T has hit the teenage years, he’s no longer content with a can of shaving cream and a fake razor. For the past year he’s been closely monitoring his peach fuzz.
“Mom, feel this. I think it’s getting rougher.”
Or “Mom, look, you can see that some of the hairs are darker.”
Or the ever popular “Uh Mom, you need to shave, your mustache is darker than mine!”
Sadly, he was right on that one.
And this year, he finally got to break out the razor and shaving cream. Now I get updates on how the shave goes.
“Mom, I think I’m always going to shave in the shower, it makes it easier.”
“Mom, can you bring my shaving cream and razor to the school, I think I need to shave before my performance.” (No joke, this was yesterday’s phone call! I explained that the pancake makeup would cover any stubble, not make it more pronounced.) (And really, his stubble after 3 days of not shaving is still not as bad as my stubble after 1 day of not shaving!!)
Sorry, that last bit was probably TMI.
A few months ago, he discovered the Dollar Shave Club, because apparently I wasn’t doing a good enough job in keeping him supplied with razors! It worked out though, because this kid is in heaven.
He gets online, places his order and sets up the delivery schedule. I always know when a package is due because he starts to volunteer to go check the mail!
This was a win/win situation. I don’t have to remember to pick up razors, and my son gets an easy way to learn how to manage his money and subscriptions. But, wait – there’s more!
This is the inspiration for the post! This is what got me thinking about Father’s Day in reverse.
It’s the end of the school year, and we were cleaning out Mr. T’s back pack.
His very manly backpack, custom made for him by a soldier on tour overseas. It’s his favorite bag and he’s carried this guy for years. And guess what I found in the side pocket?
One Wipe Charlies! I looked at him and he looked at me. I looked at him some more and he goes “What? The toilet paper at school is so rough – these are much better!”
All of the sudden that little seed of doubt I’d been carrying around vanished. Not only can my kid shave, he’s discovered how to make his life easier.
Yep, he’ll be just fine as he grows up, and this Father’s Day I’ll give myself a pat on the back! And then I’ll upload our photos from camping and discover a dozen duck lip selfies on my phone!
PS – this post contains affiliated links, because Mr. T told me after I post this that he can get a credit if anyone orders based on him. Naturally, I had to change my link for him! And, I think I should disclose that to you!