Sometimes Dreams Do Have to Die

Follow your dreams

Follow your dreams.

Find your bliss.

Follow your heart and your dreams will come true.

When you wish upon a star, well, you get my drift.

We’ve all heard them, heck, I bet most of us have said them. ¬†Those wonderful platitudes.


a remark or statement, especially one with a moral content, that has been used too often to be interesting or thoughtful.

I love platitudes, because despite what the definition says, obviously at some point they have been true, and repeated often enough as true, to become annoyances in our lives.  So, they were and are true, and I shall continue to utilize them!


But what happens where there isn’t an easy answer, where there isn’t a platitude you can pull out?

What happens when you realized that sometimes, dreams do have to die?

What happens at that moment when you realize that you’ve given it all you have and there just isn’t anything left to give?

How do you cope with the overwhelming loss of your dream? How do you even begin to move forward after investing years and years of time and energy? What happens in that moment when you realize that the dream isn’t going to come true?

Where is the platitude for that?

que sera sera

Oh look, there’s the platitude for that.

But does it cover the loss?

Probably not.

See this this is where dreams go to die

I have a dream that I realized, I have to let die.  You probably guessed this by now!

And, I’m not going to lie, when the proverbial light bulb went off over my head as the realization struck me like lightening, it was a shot to my heart.

I wanted to double over and cry. ¬†I didn’t want it to be true. ¬†I stood there, in front of the dryer folding laundry, because naturally, that’s where the epiphany had to hit, and I was floundering. What was I supposed to do? What do you do when dreams die? Have I really given it all I’ve got? Do I have to let it die? Maybe it’s not dead yet. ¬†Maybe there is more I can do.

And as I stood there matching up socks, it also hit me.

This isn't giving up this is letting go

Sometimes there isn’t more you can do. ¬†Sometimes, dreams really do have to die.

And, it’s okay.

It’s okay to realize that the dream you had so many years ago isn’t the right dream for you today. ¬†That, by letting this dream die, you are making room for a new dream to enter your life.

And just like in a sitcom, the crises is had and averted in about the time it takes to fold a load of laundry. ¬†It’s okay to let go. ¬†Sometimes dreams do have to die; however, it could just be making room for something bigger and better.

Or, it could just be leaving.

There isn’t always a bigger and better waiting for you.

Just FYI.

In this moment, I’m okay with that, too.

letting-go Joseph Campbell