It’s All a Matter of Perspective

Recently I’ve been working on staying off social media.  It’s a killer time waster and being Type A, I like to be productive.  So, I’ve taken to checking Facebook and Pinterest when I’m on the stationary bike.  It gives me something to focus on, and frequently I’m on there past my scheduled 30 minute time because I just want to get caught up to my feed!

Part of the bonus is that it keeps my mind sharper and engaged, because seriously, I want to get caught up to my feed, and in order to do that, I have to be able to read and process in a short amount of time!

It also has helped me notice some flaws in my Ego.

Per In psychological terms, the ego is the part of the psyche that experiences the outside world and reacts to it.

Case in point.  I ran across this gem the other day.

You see a person's true colors when you are no longer beneficial to their life | Did That Just Happen Blog

My immediate reaction was more on the negative side, my Ego feeling the rejection that comes from life moving and friends moving on.  “Well, he doesn’t need me anymore, he has his new friends”  which translates to “I must be lacking”.

Fortunately, just as soon as I had that thought, my next reaction was, why? Why does this have to be negative?

It immediately reminded me of a girl, she’s not been my friend the longest, but it’s probably darn near close! In the past, her life has sometimes gone off track and she has needed me.  I’ve been beneficial to her life.  And the same is true the other direction, I’ve needed her, and she has been beneficial to my life.

But right now, we aren’t a benefit to each other.  Our lives are pretty good.

Yet, she still calls, and she still reaches out, and we still get together.

And that’s when it hit me.  Her true colors are showing.  I offer no benefit to her life, except my friendship.  She loves me for me and that is all she needs.  I don’t have to be useful to her, I just get to be.

I can’t tell you how amazing it was to have that revelation, that what I immediately saw as “lacking” was in fact a message exactly the opposite.  I just needed a new perspective on things!

It's all a matter of perspective | Did That Just Happen Blog

And this happened a few days ago, but I just couldn’t get it out of my mind, so I had to come share it with y’all! What do you think? Do you have a perspective thought or revelation to share?

25 thoughts on “It’s All a Matter of Perspective

  1. I got chills reading this Kate, and not just because my Type A personality was loving the idea of social media and exercising at the same time! What a great awareness about how we benefit one another. I am not quite in the same situation, but your message applied to me, only in a different way. I just feel such freedom of some of the dynamics I allowed myself to be entangled in.

  2. That was so reflective and very thought provoking Kate, I’ve been trying to figure somethings about myself and my ego too, and this was a kind of thing that I’m sure will help me out in understanding a lot of things about myself. I’m really thankful for this post 🙂

  3. One of my favorite quotes is something like “Character is how you treat someone who can do nothing for you.” I know many people who are sweet as pie when they want something. It’s how you act when you are after nothing and that person is not just a method of getting something that shows what you are really like, so I agree with the quote you showed and your thoughts about it.

  4. I had to think about this one for awhile before it sunk in. Now I get it. I LOVE that quote. When someone no longer needs you and still hunts you to maintain the friendship – they are the special ones. That is gorgeous x

  5. Nothing like having a friend that offers no benefits or one to whom I don’t necessarily derive any benefit myself. I have a few of those. It helps me sleep better at night.

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