I’m reading a book. This is not uncommon. I read a lot, but instead of the dime store novels I normally download, I downloaded a book by the author of Pay It Forward. It is an inspirational book and a journal of the author learning to make a better life by using the life she already had. It’s pretty cool so far. If I was a good blogger, I’d look up her name and the title of the book for you… I’ll try and get to that before I post this for your enjoyment!
Normally when I am reading a book and the author asks you to think about something “think about your journey” “think about the last time you did XX” or as was posed to me today in a blog a friend forwarded “think about the last time you did something brave”, when they ask me to think about things, I don’t. Sometimes I don’t want to explore, sometimes I don’t care and usually, my primary goal is to just finish the book. Like everything else in my life, I’m always competing against my own internal clock. I want to just get everything done. But, sigh, that’s probably another blog subject!
In the last chapter I read, the author was talking and asking about comfort. This is a subject that I am familiar with. I love my comfort zone. I am very happy in my comfort zone. I’m also very happy in my black pajama pants. I believe in comfort. I believe in finding the happy place. And, yes, I believe in my black pajama pants.
My natural state is a hermit. I am a homebody. Give me some coffee, food and books and you won’t hear from me for weeks. I could give up people for weeks at a time. I don’t like people, nothing personal, but y’all tend to drive me crazy. It’s not you; it’s me and my issues. The point is, I am happy in my home, wherever that might be!
Raising a child, I had to get out a lot. I liked it, I’m fortunate that I like spending time with Mr. T. We did all the things that normal families with young kids do, we went to the zoo, Six Flags, the museum, local festivals, you name it, and we have done it. I got out of the house a lot – for Mr. T. I would go out into the world and do things and have adventures, but it was all for Mr. T. Pretty soon all of my adventures were just for him. As much as I love being Mr. T’s mom, I needed to be my own person, too. It really is healthier.
The last several years I’ve worked on being a Yes Man. Saying YES to everything I could. Let me say, it is hard to leave the comfort zone. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve listed all the reasons I should back out of plans I’ve made, or even made the list before I made the plans. It’s going to rain, it’s going to be so hot, and I’ve had a busy week. I’d be so much more comfortable if I stayed home. I’d be so much more comfortable if I was snuggled up on the couch with a book.
Now I frequently leave my comfort zone. In my head I know that I will have a good time once I get there; it’s the getting there that can be hard for me. I focus on just one step at a time. I can get out the door; I can make it to the car. I CAN do this. It does get easier, even though I still have days that are harder than others. I’m proud to admit that it’s been years since I’ve made it to a destination just to turn around and go home because I couldn’t walk in. In those years I’ve had marvelous adventures, made great memories and really experienced some joy. I’ve left my comfort zone and experience joy in my life. And, some of those adventures have been in my black pajama pants!
So, when I am asked “do you pick comfort or joy?” I am proud to say that (most of the time) I pick joy. I get out and I live my life. I make sure that Mr. T lives his life and has the opportunity to be a kid. I am a better person for it, too.
I’ve included pictures in this blog of times this year that we’ve picked joy instead of comfort, I hope you enjoyed them! So… Do you pick comfort or joy?