I’m reading a book. This is not uncommon. I read a lot, but instead of the dime store novels I normally download, I downloaded a book by the author of Pay It Forward. It is an inspirational book and a journal of the author learning to make a better life by using the life she already had. It’s pretty cool so far. If I was a good blogger, I’d look up her name and the title of the book for you… I’ll try and get to that before I post this for your enjoyment!
Normally when I am reading a book and the author asks you to think about something “think about your journey” “think about the last time you did XX” or as was posed to me today in a blog a friend forwarded “think about the last time you did something brave”, when they ask me to think about things, I don’t. Sometimes I don’t want to explore, sometimes I don’t care and usually, my primary goal is to just finish the book. Like everything else in my life, I’m always competing against my own internal clock. I want to just get everything done. But, sigh, that’s probably another blog subject!
In the last chapter I read, the author was talking and asking about comfort. This is a subject that I am familiar with. I love my comfort zone. I am very happy in my comfort zone. I’m also very happy in my black pajama pants. I believe in comfort. I believe in finding the happy place. And, yes, I believe in my black pajama pants.
My natural state is a hermit. I am a homebody. Give me some coffee, food and books and you won’t hear from me for weeks. I could give up people for weeks at a time. I don’t like people, nothing personal, but y’all tend to drive me crazy. It’s not you; it’s me and my issues. The point is, I am happy in my home, wherever that might be!
Raising a child, I had to get out a lot. I liked it, I’m fortunate that I like spending time with Mr. T. We did all the things that normal families with young kids do, we went to the zoo, Six Flags, the museum, local festivals, you name it, and we have done it. I got out of the house a lot – for Mr. T. I would go out into the world and do things and have adventures, but it was all for Mr. T. Pretty soon all of my adventures were just for him. As much as I love being Mr. T’s mom, I needed to be my own person, too. It really is healthier.
The last several years I’ve worked on being a Yes Man. Saying YES to everything I could. Let me say, it is hard to leave the comfort zone. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve listed all the reasons I should back out of plans I’ve made, or even made the list before I made the plans. It’s going to rain, it’s going to be so hot, and I’ve had a busy week. I’d be so much more comfortable if I stayed home. I’d be so much more comfortable if I was snuggled up on the couch with a book.
Now I frequently leave my comfort zone. In my head I know that I will have a good time once I get there; it’s the getting there that can be hard for me. I focus on just one step at a time. I can get out the door; I can make it to the car. I CAN do this. It does get easier, even though I still have days that are harder than others. I’m proud to admit that it’s been years since I’ve made it to a destination just to turn around and go home because I couldn’t walk in. In those years I’ve had marvelous adventures, made great memories and really experienced some joy. I’ve left my comfort zone and experience joy in my life. And, some of those adventures have been in my black pajama pants!
So, when I am asked “do you pick comfort or joy?” I am proud to say that (most of the time) I pick joy. I get out and I live my life. I make sure that Mr. T lives his life and has the opportunity to be a kid. I am a better person for it, too.
I’ve included pictures in this blog of times this year that we’ve picked joy instead of comfort, I hope you enjoyed them! So… Do you pick comfort or joy?
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As I scrolled through the reader tonight, I came to a picture and was like….”HEY!! That Suburban looks familiar!”
Oh…it’s mine….and HEY! That’s me!! Wait – it’s US!! 🙂
I love our adventures and I’m finding I need more and more help lately NOT becoming that hermit. Thank you for dragging me out of my shell!
I’m so very happy to help you get out! I like to allow myself time at home, but I know how easy it is to get “stuck” in the comfort of home. I’m just glad that I have you so close that I can grab you, and visa versa, and we can just take off and hit the craft stores! And yeah, I love that pic and used it without asking! I figured it was fairly safe!
Totally safe and I’m fine with it – just caught me by surprise is all since it is/was the main picture WP put up with your post.
I am very much the same way: I am quite comfortable staying right at home! But sometimes after I have gone out when I spent most of the time getting ready thinking about how I didn’t want to go, I end up having a really good time and am glad I went. It’s good to push our own boundaries a bit.
It is good to push our own boundaries! Just like you, as I’m getting ready all I can think about is how I don’t wanna!!! It’s always a good time (well, almost always) but getting myself out the door is a struggle sometimes. Probably explains why I’m late all of the time!!
Cheers for the girls’ camping trip!
We have a cousins’ camping trip–not every year, unfortunately–but you’re right, it’s a time to recharge batteries, but also solve the world’s problems, and laugh!
Yes! It is so much fun! We do several “family” camping trips where all of our families come, but we always reserve one weekend for just us girls. A cousin’s camping trip sounds like a great idea – what a great way for all the kids to grow up knowing extended family. that’s awesome!
Good for you for expanding your comfort zone.
By the way, you seem to really like those pajama pants.
Thanks! It’s a challenge some days, but I work hard at it. And, yes, I do love my pajama pants. I can honestly say that I own more pajama pants than real pants. And, what’s worse, is I don’t sleep in them!!!
I want to ask but am afraid of the anwer of what you do in them.